Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Did you know there is a designated De-Lurking day? Well there is and in typical Trish fashion I missed it. So I’m using today, Valentine’s Day, the day of louuuurve, instead. Mostly because I used my one good Valentine’s Day story last year and have decided I’m not going to talk about Bossypants until Thursday.
A little over two years ago, when I was still at Trish’s Reading Nook, I had a Silent Visitor Unveil day and was really surprised at how many people stepped up and said that they regularly read my blatherings but didn’t comment for one reason or another. This was both flattering and disconcerting to me at the same time. Flattered because I’m always surprised that you continue to come back for more ramblings but disconcerted because I don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable or shy about commenting.
I’m of two minds when it comes to commenting. Mostly I love it and wish that I could do more of it. I can typically find something to say after I’ve read a post and I love letting the person know that I read what blogger wrote by leaving a comment. Sadly there is no longer enough time to read and comment on all the blogs and posts that I subscribe to. But in the end, how do we know that anyone is reading if no one tells us. Plus I just love the interaction of talking books with other bookies.
On the other hand, I’ve started subscribing to more and more quilting, crafting, homemaking, and photography blogs. The funny thing about these circles is that they are very similar to the book blogging circles—all the way down to the drama. Even though I read some of these blogs quite regularly and love them as much as many of the book blogs I read, I feel weird commenting. Maybe because I feel like I’m not quite part of the “conversation,” or because I’m not a quilting/crafting/homemaking/photography blogger, or because I think that I’m not really adding anything by leaving my mark. What’s one more comment and why would so and so care when I’m just an inconsequential blip on the blog?
So yes, I get it. I have become a lurker of sorts. Sadly as I blog less and less about books (Bossypants on Thursday guys!!), I also have begun lurking at some of your blogs. Skimming the bookish posts but not having a whole lot to add to the discussion. And as I’ve read personal posts on the blogs that I lurk on and wish that I could comment but feel weird about it, I’ve wondered if some of my readers feel the same. I’m overly open with y’all. I know this. And I talk to you guys as if I’ve known you forever (we are going on five years!). But please feel free to jump right in as if you’ve been here all along! YOU are my audience.
So…without any further ado…
On this day of lovey dovey squishy puppy cupcake pudding, come tell me your favorite dessert!
And I’d love to know your thoughts on commenting and lurking and community in general.
Oh...and Happy Valentine's Day! :)