Category: Mommyhood

Unlatched by Jennifer Grayson

Posted 28 September, 2016 by Trish in Mommyhood, Reading Nook, Review / 10 Comments

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Unlatched cover by jennifer grayson


Title: Unlatched: The Evolution of Breastfeeding and the Making of a Controversy
Author: Jennifer Grayson
Published: 2016 Pages: 336 | Genre: Nonfiction
Rating: Breastfeeding. It’s complicated!

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My sister asked me the other day at what age I thought it was inappropriate for a child to still be nursing. Had I not just finished Unlatched, I don’t know what my answer would have been. The short answer I gave her was “I don’t know…it’s complicated!”

And that’s what makes Unlatched such an interesting read. Grayson goes into some of the history of breastfeeding and how views of breastfeeding have changed over the past century. These days it feels taboo to discuss breastfeeding, depending on the audience, and it certainly isn’t something that most women choose to do in public, despite it being the most natural way to feed an infant. How did breastfeeding become such a source of controversy? Why are mommies at war with one another over breastfeeding versus formula feeding?

I read Unlatched mostly while I breastfed my 8 month old babe or while I pumped breastmilk at work, because that’s when I get much of my reading in these days. Even though I am a breastfeeding mom, I had many conflicted thoughts while reading this book and at the beginning was incredibly turned off by Grayson’s tone and point of view. I mean, the second chapter of the book is entitled “What Would Baby Jesus Drink?” Cue the eyerolling. I formula-fed my first baby and felt so much guilt over it and it is very clear that Grayson is very pro-breastfeeding (she weaned her oldest at four years).

The breadth of the book is quite expansive and at times I felt like it was a little too wide. She covers breastfeeding in ancient times through the Industrial Revolution. She gives a lot of focus to when mothers began working outside of the home in the 1800s and the great effect this had on breastfeeding in the 1900s. She talks about the advent of formula and how formula marketing has played such a large role in breastfeeding and its public perception. She talks about the Women Infant Children program and the government involvement with formula companies and WIC.

Grayson also talks about the benefits of breastfeeding as well as some of the mysteries, but this is where I wanted more information. She dropped a bomb in my lap that breastmilk is actually a tissue. What the what? What does this even mean? She doesn’t expand and I couldn’t find any information online. She strongly believes that if more babies were breastfed that our national health would increase as a whole. But is there that much research to substantiate this huge claim? She didn’t convince me.

There’s SO MUCH. SO MUCH. There’s the idea that breastfeeding is now something that is tied to privilege–if you can stay at home with your child then yay for you. But this also assumes that you’re able to nurse with other littles around. Or that you have the flexibility and support system. Or that it comes easy to you. Breastfeeding is hard!

Which then leads into the discussion of how breastfeeding is handled in hospitals. My own experiences between my first and second baby were very different. No one mentioned putting the baby to my breast right after I had her the first time around–I had to ask the nurses when I should start trying to feed her. Rooming arrangements were also different between the first and third. With my first, she was only brought into my room to nurse. By my third baby, she never left my side for one second during our entire stay in the hospital. The presence (or lack) of formula, pacifiers, and lactation consultants varied each time.

She talks about how the women in 18th century France shipped off their babies to farms to be breastfed by others. Or the “mass infanticide” that occurred in Britain and Ireland when babies were not breastfed by their mothers (what?!). She talks about how the normal breastfeeding range is 2-7 years. Though I’m not sure exactly where this is happening. She talks about pumping and how the return to work is affecting our babies. Of course this also goes hand in hand with maternity leave–or the lack of it. This third time around, I’m lucky to work the hours that I do around breastfeeding and pumping. I know from my first corporate job that this is rarely the case for working mothers.

So yes, in many ways I really connected with Unlatched and it was a read that I found compelling. But the delivery of Grayson’s message was often tough to swallow. I spent the first half of the book exasperated with the way that she was trying to sell breastfeeding. Additionally, the first couple of chapters in the book felt unorganized and the information seemed conflicting. Grayson made a lot of claims but it wasn’t always clear whether these claims were founded in actual research or supposition.

The second half of the book was much more polished and felt more relevant to the conversations we need to be having about breastfeeding–how formula companies have evolved and how more research can be done to uncover some of the mysteries of breastmilk. These articles from around the web are snippets from the book if you’d like to get a taste of the writing style and content. ‘The World’s Oldest Profession’ Might Not Be What You ThinkIs It Time To Stop Talking About The Benefits Of Breastfeeding?Breast milk is best and free, so why is it a luxury for American moms?

I know, I know, this post is already a 1,000 words long…likely the longest book post I’ve written (not to mention the essay I wrote on my own breastfeeding journey), but here are a few of the passages I highlighted throughout the book (and there were many).

“But the truth is that while the rooting and sucking reflexes are hardwired in a baby, a mother’s knowledge of how to breastfeed is not. For humans and members of the larger primate order to which we belong, that knowledge is culturally based and it is largely learned” (loc 234). But then “…for thousands, perhaps millions, of years of human history, breastfeeding was a natural, intuitive experience that all Homo sapiens and previous human ancestors had shared and knew intimately” (loc 271).

“The federal government’s Women, Infants, and Children program, also known as WIC (which provides supplemental foods as well as health assistance to low-income pregnant women, new mothers, infants, and children under the age of five), buys and distributes more than half of all the infant formula sold in the United States every year, making the US government the formula manufacturers’ biggest customer” (loc 347).

“And many soon came to see formula as preferable in an era when doctors believed that breastfeeding could only be successful under ideal conditions: if the mother had ample daily exercise; if she drank prescribed quantities of water; if she followed a plain diet; if she abstained from tea, coffee, and alcohol; if she wasn’t stressed in any way. The bottle, unlike the breast, was predictable and measurable” (loc 1439).

“Yet here’s the crux of the problem: in a culture where both men and women automatically think sex when they see a naked breast, it is a real challenge for a mother to whip out one of those sexually loaded things every time she needs to feed her kid” (loc 2623).

“But maybe we should stop talking about the benefits of breastfeeding and instead start considering the risks of not breastfeeding, since I’m certainly not fine. Are you fine? Are we—an overweight nation of chronically ill, medicine-dependent formula feeders—fine?” (loc 3637…Grayson was formula fed as an infant).

“But in the United States, we’ve championed pumping to the exclusion of giving a new mother the time to bond with her newborn, by packing her off to work with a health care–sponsored breast pump and zero paid maternity leave” (loc 3856).


Bottom Line: Whew. I still have so many more thoughts and the more I think about it, the more the breastfeeding question continues to complicate itself in my mind. Do I wish that more mothers would consider breastfeeding their babies? Yes–absolutely! Do I think that mothers should feel less guilt over not being able to breastfeed? Yes–absolutely! It’s not clear-cut for me. I’ve been on both sides of the fence. Is this a book for everyone? No. Is it a perfect piece of journalism? No–I think Grayson’s book is flawed in many ways. But I do think that as uncomfortable this conversation is to have, we should be talking about breastfeeding more than we are.




Assigned Kiddo Reading Time

Posted 25 September, 2016 by Trish in Mommyhood, Reading Nook / 25 Comments



Happy Sunday!

Here we are a month into Kindergarten. Can you believe it? This past week it was college week at school and so I explained that when Elle turned 18 and finished high school she would/could go to college. She cried that she didn’t want to go to college and leave home. Me either baby girl. Me either. Thankfully we don’t have to think about that for many more years! But yes I know…it’ll be here before I know it. Sob.

While Elle hasn’t come home with any homework from school yet, her teacher has asked that parents read to the kiddos 20 minutes each day. Reading books before bedtime has long been routine for us, but it rarely equates to 20 minutes and I’m usually putting the baby down while Scott reads to the bigger girls. I miss having that reading time in bed with them.

One of the benefits of being able to pick Elle up from school and have some alone time with her before getting her sisters is having built in reading time. While some days this does feel more like a chore, I’m trying to keep things fun and light and not go too much into my teacher mode to try and make this time about learning.

This is a struggle for me because I worry. It’s difficult not to compare to other kiddos who are already reading a bit and have a good handle on sight words. We’re still trying to keep individual letters straight. The past four weeks have shown great improvement but I do wonder if I’ll eventually be researching dyslexia, which is hereditary. And then I take a billion deep breaths and remind myself that we are only four weeks into kindergarten.

Mama never stops worrying. For better or worse.

But! I’ve been trying to make the most of our reading time together and have been having a lot of fun with it. Last week I read a Book Riot article from Raych about Tiny Ladies Doing Shit and put ALLLLLL the books on hold at the library. We are making our way through Hamster Princess: Harriet the Invincible right now and I’m loving it. I think most of the jokes are going over Elle’s head, but this take on Sleeping Beauty is just too much fun.

Harriet the Invincible is our first chapter book and I’m hoping I can use it to leap into some of the other books I’ve been wanting to read. Short attention spans and glazed over eyes is still a problem at this age, but 20 minutes a day seems to be the perfect amount of time.

My hope is that I can sneak in Alice in Wonderland next. Maybe the Little House on the Prairie books. Can you believe I’ve never read The Secret Garden?! Honestly, I feel like I’m a poor gauge of what is appropriate for a five year old–should I be sticking to easier books or go ahead and read some of the more advanced ones to her?

We’ll figure it out, I’m sure. In the meantime, I’m soaking up those extra snuggles with someone who is growing much too quickly. I’ve always loved these quieter and slower times with my girls.

Do you have memories of “reading” longer books when you were little? At what age did you start reading longer books with littles in your life?




Books Recently Finished: Since my last Sunday post, I skimmed the rest of Total Money Makeover and counted it finished. If you skim through a book but got 100% of the gist, do you count it toward your annual tally? I also finished What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty and really enjoyed it.

New Books in the House: Celebrate Everything by Jenny Rosenstrach came out this past week. She wrote Dinner: A Love Story and I adore her. I haven’t had a chance to really dig into the book yet but it’s just as lovely as DALS.

New Books on my E-Reader: Someone needs to take Amazon one-click away from me. Thankfully I’ve had some gift cards to blow through lately. Last week I picked up Catastrophic Happiness (a motherhood memoir) and The Secret Keeper (for book club). I also recently got the ebook copy of Lonesome Dove since I have the beast of a hardcover on my shelf and that’s just not gonna happen. Pst…who wants to read Lonesome Dove with me? I’m thinking November.

Books on the Nightstand: Lots of cookbooks! I’m taking the leap into Once a Month Cooking next month so have been doing lots of research. I’m also about 50% of the way through Germinal by Émile Zola, but I have to set it aside to read The Secret Keeper.

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What’s going on in your neck of the woods today? Curled up with a good book?



8 Month Update – 8.27.2016

Posted 31 August, 2016 by Trish in Life, Mommyhood / 9 Comments



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And geez. Here goes my mommy guilt. Today is actually Evie’s third birthday!!! I’ll take her 3 year picture on her quilt this weekend and hopefully post it before never. Also sad is I meant I meant I meant to write up Cara’s 7m update and womp womp. I did snap the picture, but no write-up. Turns out I did the same thing for Evie’s 8m update. I guess life moves quickly and I just need to be glad that I have the little records I do (am yes, I am SO grateful).

Sleep – Second verse, same as the first. Naps have been great for Cara while she’s at home with me. I’m not sure if she’s just so tired from being at daycare, but typically she naps for 90 minutes in the morning and afternoon. Sometimes longer stretches. Occasionally she’ll only go an hour, but she rarely has two short naps a day. At home. At daycare she’s lucky to get in two 30 minute naps. She comes home exhausted.

Bedtime has shown no improvement. Well, bedtime is just fine–especially on the days that she does go to daycare. But on an average night she still wakes up twice a night. Every once in a while she’ll surprise me and just wake up once, but in the past month I’m not sure we have had any nights where she’s slept completely through. I think that we need to sleep train her, but I’ve never sleep trained a nursing baby before. I guess I keep hoping that eventually she’ll get with the program and start dropping night wakings. At least she goes right back down afterward.

Eating – After struggling for a few weeks with spoon-fed purees, I’ve gone full Baby-Led Weaning with Cara. She’s happier, I’m happier. The whole thing makes so much more sense. Sometimes it’s tough to figure out just what to give her, but it’s also forcing me to keep more fruits and vegetables on hand. Always a good thing. She loves beans and cheerios. We eat a lot of sweet potatoes. She’ll gnaw on apples and pears. It’s messy messy messy but still better than trying to shove a spoon in her mouth. Some days she doesn’t eat much, and other days she eats a ton. Otherwise we’re still nursing on demand.

Routine – The past month was such a busy one! Elle started school a week ago so it’s thrown a baby wrench in our schedule and Cara has started going to school three days rather than two (next week she’ll start going every day…wahhhhhh!). For the past week on the days that I’m home, Scott will take Elle to school and I’ll take Evie after Cara wakes up. Then we come home, putter around, and she goes down for a nap around 10ish. Lunchtime, then errands if I have any to run, putter around the house more, then afternoon nap. Elle has to be picked up at 3 so I’ll load up Cara and get her. Pick up Evie at school, come home and start cooking dinner while the girls play and we wait for Scott to get home. Scott gets home, they go upstairs and hang out while I finish dinner. Dinner…for hours it feels like…then bath and bed. Cara is so easy going with our busy lives but I do try to protect her naps whenever I can!

Development – Two shiny little teeth! I didn’t think those things were ever going to poke through her gums. She’s full on crawling, she’s attempted to crawl up the stairs, and she pulls up on everything. There have been a few times when she’s let go of whatever she’s holding onto and will balance for a few seconds. I definitely have to keep my eye on her a lot more than I did a month ago when she was a little less mobile. Diaper changes are no fun as she’s twisty turny and she loves to look at herself in the mirrors above the change tables. She’s easy to smile and loves to laugh.

She squeals with delight when I run the bath and loves to splash in the water. She enjoys taking the magnets off the fridge (including the Old Macdonald one we’ve had for years) and chases all sorts of things all over the kitchen. Again, always vigilant for little dropped things that she wants to put in her mouth (and constantly lecturing big sisters). She babbles a lot and is making more different sounds–ga and da and ba. Sadly not ma. Ha! Neither older girl said mama until after they were a year old.

She still loves to blow raspberries, though she usually does this with her lips now rather than her tongue. She’s working on that pincer grip and is pretty good about getting little objects into her mouth (like peas or berries). It’s amazing to watch her eat because she’ll use her fingers in her mouth to smash down bits of food that are too big. All BLW research has said that babies rarely choke (the gagging is a good thing!), and I can see how she’s learning to control this herself.

Personality – Still my sweet little Bo Beara. Always the cuddlebug, she loves to be kissed all over and just laughs and laughs. When I’m holding her, she usually pats me on my shoulder in a consoling kind of way. Still the thumbsucking and since she doesn’t have a lovey yet, I tend to be the thumb trigger for her. As soon as I pick her up, if she’s tired, in goes the thumb.

She’s a mama’s girl and while she doesn’t mind of some others hold her, she often will look back over and whine for me to take her back. She definitely does better with faces she’s more familiar with, but sometimes she’ll surprise me and go to complete strangers–I took her to my old workplace and she did great being passed around to the various coworkers. I think a lot of it just depends on the day. She is much clingier after she’s been at daycare all day and usually won’t go to anyone else on these days once she’s home.

Cara is curious and loves to explore. She can entertain herself pretty well and definitely lets her sisters know if they’ve overstepped their boundaries. Evie is starting to get protective of her things that Cara is now showing interest in, but Evie can still make Cara laugh like no one else can. While Evie doesn’t show Cara the love like Elle does, it’s fun to watch them interact and it will be interesting to see their relationship develop now that Elle is going to a separate school and there will be more time with just Evie and Cara without Elle.

It’s such a fun age and I wish I could hit pause. She’s still cuddly but she’s developing so quickly–I hate to think that in a few months she’ll be too busy to be my baby anymore. I’m happy to nurse and cuddle and smother her, though I admit that she does make it tough for me to get anything done in the evenings when she wants to cling and I need to do all the things. But still. I’m trying to make sure to soak up as much of that baby love as I can.




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My heart. Bursting into a million pieces.




What I Wish I Knew About Breastfeeding

Posted 3 August, 2016 by Trish in Mommyhood / 22 Comments

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What I wish I knew about breastfeeding

My Breastfeeding Journey

I’ve been drafting this post for what feels like years, but seriously for the past several weeks. Learning that this week is World Breastfeeding Week gave me the push that I needed to actually write down my breastfeeding journey.

I’m currently a little over halfway done with breastfeeding my third babe. Halfway done because she’s seven months old and my goal is a year. Of course a lot of this depends on how pumping goes when I return to work full-time in the next few weeks.

After I weaned Evie, I started to write up my thoughts on breastfeeding but I got sidetracked and it ended up being one of those posts that fell to the wayside. One of the brilliant and devastating parts of motherhood is that memory can be faulty…brilliant because you forget the struggle of sleepless nights and the torture of the terrible twos, and devastating because some of those sweeter moments are forgotten. Breastfeeding is one of those things for me. There have been good times and bad times.

Breastfeeding the First Go Around

I nursed Elle until she was about four and a half months old. When I’m not being honest, I’ll round this up to five months. Nursing was great until I returned back to work at 12 weeks and the stresses of pumping became too much. This is another partial lie. I made breastfeeding stressful from the beginning because when I was on maternity leave I was desperate to build up a stash for when I returned to work. I tried to pump in between nursing sessions, and every ounce was a fight. This was especially frustrating when I pumped during a nap that ended up running short and I felt like I had just stolen milk from a baby who wouldn’t last a full three hours between nursing.

But besides the stresses of trying to build up a stash, Elle and I had a solid nursing relationship by the time I returned back to work when she was three months old. Things started going downhill when I received bad advice about how often she should take a bottle and how much she should be consuming in each bottle. Because how do you measure how much a nursing baby is taking in at each feeding? A bottle feeding mother gave me a chart with times and amounts, but it wasn’t until my second baby that I realized this was really for formula. How did I not know at the time that breastmilk is digested more quickly than formula and that my breastfed baby would probably continue to feed every three hours until she was closer to a year old?

Sadly my daycare provider (in-home) was not much help. She didn’t show much regard for my breastmilk. I was constantly frustrated with not knowing how much to provide or by a frozen batch of breastmilk being thawed only to go to waste. I should have spoken more of my mind and voiced how I was feeling, but I was overwhelmed. Especially as pumping at work wasn’t going very well either.

After I returned to work, my company was in the process of remodeling the office. Because of this, there wasn’t an official place for me to pump. I was moved from office to office to office, sometimes pumping in the middle of boxes and paperwork while people tried to open the door. I was embarrassed at the lack of privacy and the uncertainty of where I would pump each time during the day. While I was allowed time to pump during the day, I had to make up the time away from my desk so started work a little earlier and worked through my lunch.

To top it all off, I was using my sister’s old pump and she only had one tube so I could only pump one side at a time. I remember searching and searching for an extra tube online with no luck–was it really possible that extra tubing wasn’t available five years ago?  Five years later, I can’t believe I didn’t purchase my own pump that would provide more efficiency. What was I thinking? I’m sure I was thinking of the expense of a pump, but in the end I spent more on formula than I ever would on a new pump.

Eventually I got to a point where I wasn’t producing enough milk to keep up with what I needed to send to daycare. I gave up and grew to hate the pump.

I’m filled with resentment when I look back on those days. I’m angry at my company and daycare provider for not being more supportive. I’m angry at myself for not trying harder.

Breastfeeding the Second Go Around

Fast forwarded to Evie. After I had Evie, I decided to leave my job and stay home with her. I always knew that I would be returning back to work, but I didn’t have to worry about when this would happen. I ended up nursing Evie until she was about fifteen months old. It was a huge success compared to my run with Elle, but it wasn’t entirely without challenges.

My biggest challenge with nursing Evie was that she was so easily distracted that I couldn’t nurse her when Elle was around. Oh the guilt when I would turn on the TV on the days that Elle was home with me and try to encourage her to watch TV until I came back downstairs after nursing Evie. Because Evie was so small, I was constantly paranoid about my supply and whether she was getting enough, so I did everything I could to make sure that every nursing session was the best that it could be.

The second biggest challenge was that Evie got to the point where she refused to take a bottle. When I was ready to go back to work–9 months–she wouldn’t take a bottle. For a year, I was unable to leave her for more than three to four hours at a time. Consequently, I worked half days when I could and Scott and I rarely had any date nights away from the girls. But I nursed her for fifteen months! I can remember wanting to be done around a year but not knowing how to wean her. At this point I can’t remember the details.

So much of motherhood is about stressing in the moment for things that always seem to work out in the end.

Nursing Babe

Breastfeeding the Third Go Around

Maybe the third time is the charm? Breastfeeding has gone so much more smoothly with Cara and I feel like I’ve gotten it mostly figured out. It wasn’t always easy, though. Cara has a strong latch and the first six weeks of nursing were incredibly painful. Like toe curling pain when she would latch. I would suck in my breath and brace myself for the first minute of nursing. Thankfully this passed but it made me understand when mothers don’t continue to breastfeed after the first few painful weeks of cracked nipples.

I went back to work part-time when Cara was four months old. She was reluctant to take a bottle at first but with some effort we all adjusted (I learned she would take a bottle if the giver wasn’t holding her). Her daycare providers were great about making sure that I didn’t waste an ounce of breastmilk during the day. At first I took several smaller bottles until we finally got the hang of things and could better gauge how much she would drink from each bottle. After my first experience with Elle, this was an incredible relief. Plus with a better pump, I’m currently able to express more milk than Cara needs. It’s also helpful that I work closer to home this time and only have to miss two nursing sessions with her.

In a few weeks I’ll go back to work full-time rather than just two days a week. I’ve known this was coming for months but I’m still not ready for it. The thought of pumping every day terrifies me. After my experience with Elle, I’m afraid that it will kill my supply and that it will be too much to maintain. I try to remind myself that my breastmilk supply is very established and that I’m on the downhill side to a year. I have enough bags of milk in the freezer to provide a bottle a day for a month in case my supply does decrease.

I try to remind myself not to worry. That I’m doing the best that I can do. That the world won’t end if I can’t breastfeed my baby for a year.

What I Know About Breastfeeding

I’m of two minds when it come to breastfeeding–at the same time it’s the easier choice and the more difficult choice. For all of the negativity and stress that I’ve already written in this post, I love nursing. Sometimes I like the idea of nursing more than the reality (Elle can still remember the time when a year old Evie brought me to tears after she bit me), but I love nursing. I love the bond–the bond that only I have with my baby. I love the connection and the intimate time. I love the milkdrunk look in a nursing babe’s eyes. I love holding the babe’s hand or holding her little body. I love the way that her hand strokes my side as she cuddles me. I love that I don’t have to buy a pallet of formula and prepare bottles. I love that I can provide milk for my baby at anytime and any place (though I’m a bit squeamish about nursing in public and try to keep it private).

On the other hand, I’m the one who is tied to the baby for a year. I’m the preferred bedtime rocker because I’m the one with the boobs. I wear an incredibly unattractive nursing bra every day (though it is comfy!) and have to wear nursing pads, the outlines of which can usually be seen through my shirts. I watch what I eat to make sure that I’m eating enough and drinking enough, but also to make sure that I’m not eating foods that upset the babe. I can’t wait to eat the world’s biggest bowl of ice cream when I’m done nursing. If’ I’m going to be away from the babe for more than two hours, I pump and make sure that there’s a bottle in the fridge. It’s a constant game of milk logistics. I still track all of my nursing and pumping through an app on my phone.

I know that breastfeeding is restrictive. I can’t workout in the mornings because I’m engorged before the babe wakes up. I guess I could pump, but then I have to pump…and what if she wakes up 10 minutes after I’ve pumped and wants to nurse? And if I’m honest, breastfeeding is one of the reasons why I want to stay home with my baby. I’ve talked before about how I’m a better working mom than stay at home mom (insert ALL the guilt here!), but being able to exclusively breastfeed is certainly one of the big perks to staying at home.

Plus pumping sucks. Besides my terrible first experience, this second time around I had an office with a window but no blinds. Thankfully my “boss” is my husband and I told him I wasn’t coming to work unless he installed blinds on my window. I don’t own a hands-free bra because pumping is a very hands-on act, despite having an electric pump. I work for every single ounce that I get and stress for every ounce I don’t get. Did I drink enough? Am I eating enough? Is my supply diminishing? Should I have pumped longer? OMG the sky is falling! In the past I’ve read all of the forums on how to increase supply, what to eat, what supplements to take. Is it ever enough? How do I know if I’m pumping correctly? If my flanges are the right size? Do I need to replace the membranes? It’s an old pumping mom’s adage that whoever mentioned not crying over spilled milk did not have to express.

Nursing Snuggles

For something so natural, breastfeeding is hard

You might be asking, “What’s the big deal? Why do you keep breastfeeding?” I don’t have a simple answer and this post is already almost 2,000 words long. I hate the phrase “breast is best” because breastfeeding is hard and at the same time I recognize the privileged experience of breastfeeding. It’s not feasible for many women to breastfeed and there is no shame in that–other than the shame that it isn’t easier for more women to breastfeed (this all makes sense in my head…you’re with me, right?). But to know that my body makes milk specifically for my baby is amazing to me and I’ll keep fighting to keep going.

This post has no real point other than my desire to record my thoughts on breastfeeding from what I can remember five years ago to what I’m experiencing now. It’s been quite a journey. Not always an easy one and certainly not one without tears. But I hope I can always always always remember the feeling I have in the moment of feeding a sweet babe. Smelling her head, holding her hand, patting her bottom, watching her nurse.

With Milk Drunk Love,






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Six Month Update – 6.27.2016

Six Month Update – 6.27.2016

While I didn’t publish Cara’s five month update, I did record it. This means that this update will look quite different from her four month update, but I’m going to try hard to not back track with explanations! Sleep – I do love a napping baby. Turns out Cara loves to sleep afterall. I wouldn’t have known it during the first four months of her life when she only napped for 30 minutes in a row. […]

Posted 9 July, 2016 by Trish in Mommyhood / 12 Comments

In the Parenting Trenches

In the Parenting Trenches

    When milk spills all over a freshly mopped floor, do you cry before or after snapping a picture? Parenting has felt a little like that lately–a mixture of “do I laugh or do I cry?” Sometimes it’s easier to laugh at a bowl of spilled milk than others–but last night was not one of those nights. No, there wasn’t any spilled milk but there were tears. Mostly mine. We were off to a […]

Posted 22 June, 2016 by Trish in Mommyhood / 22 Comments

Four Month Update – 4.27.2016

Four Month Update – 4.27.2016

Month four! I can’t believe it. The past four months feel like such a blur–life sure does move quickly with three little ones. Most days I fall into bed in a fit of exhaustion and am not nearly ready enough to get up the next morning when the time comes. But we’re having fun (most of the time) and now that Cara is more than a bump on the log, the girls are enjoying her […]

Posted 9 May, 2016 by Trish in Life, Mommyhood / 21 Comments

A Day in the Life with Three Littles

A Day in the Life with Three Littles

First things first…tomorrow (Wednesday March 23rd) is the Day in the Life Blogger Event. I’ll have a link-up ready first thing in the morning for you to add your posts. Haven’t recorded a day yet but want to participate–record today!! Or record Wednesday and add your link Thursday, etc etc. I hope you’ll join in the fun. Ping me on twitter if you have any questions. Friday March 11th 2016 Day in the Life The […]

Posted 22 March, 2016 by Trish in Life, Mommyhood / 52 Comments

A Day in the Life with a Two Month Old

A Day in the Life with a Two  Month Old

Ignore the title–you all know that I also have an almost 5 year old and 2.5 year old in addition to the 2.5 month old. Just needed a way to distinguish this post from some of my other Days in the Life posts…including one I have planned for next week with all three girlies at home. I recorded below from Thursday March 10th. I recorded the below in part in preparation for the Day in […]

Posted 15 March, 2016 by Trish in Life, Mommyhood / 35 Comments

Two Month Update – 2.27.2016

Two Month Update – 2.27.2016

Well if time flew quickly with my second baby, it is going at warp speed with my third. Make it stop, make it stop!! But every day I am more and more in love with this sweet babe. Cara is a joy and I’m so happy she’s part of our family. Sleep – Cara is a great little sleeper most of the time. We did go through a bit of a rough patch the first […]

Posted 1 March, 2016 by Trish in Life, Mommyhood / 28 Comments